Work is an important part of our lives and according to Steve Jobs, ” Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.” Truth!

But what about co-workers, you know the difficult, the challenging, the annoying, and the complaining co-workers? How do sophisticated, heart-centered, fun, hardworking, woman go to work with all of these folks?

I have found there is a very large difference with job duties and the quality of other women workers that can make all the difference whether you remain in your current position, current company, or career path.

Years ago I was assigned to a team of women because it was thought we would be better analysts and communicators than the men. I soon discovered there was hierarchy that the self-imposed queen wanted servants and not peers, professionals, or colleagues. Her years of knowledge and experience weren’t that much more than anyone else but not to her, sound familiar? I don’t know about you but I consider myself to be a performer in my own right not better than anyone else but I too have my gifts and talents to share. I want everyone to able to shine so how did I handle this situation? Not too well I’m afraid. I played nice, I played NOT nice, I ignored, I hid, and surprise nothing worked. I eventually left and the queen bee won and more servants for her team.

I found myself to be chief whiner/blamer/ and victim after this experience. I couldn’t understand why a simple thing I thought I learned at school -let’s aim to get along was ignored. Work isn’t school there are no teachers or parents to overrule or oversee the problems. Instead, it’s up to us. A women’s team is a perfect example as women we tear each other down instead of lifting each other up.

What did I learn from this experience?

1) Hierarchy can be normal and learning to find your place in that kind of arrangement is often necessary.

2) I learned how to heal my voice by learning from my peers on how I speak and I came across wasn’t always what I intended.

3) I developed my own leadership style that balanced my masculine and feminine sides. I then felt authentic instead of pretending to be nice, not nice, ignoring, or hiding.

4) Lastly, I learned how to transmute my difficult conversations and situations with ease.

I coach women daily on how to not just get along but how to find their strengths, use their talents and gifts so they don’t feel like servants or pawns in a nasty battle at work.

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